Dealing
with Disagreements in An Open Office
Open
floor plans and shared office spaces are the newest trends in building a sense
of community and culture in the workplace, but with no tangible personal space
and coworkers that don’t respect (or understand the concept of) boundaries,
tension and arguments are almost certain to happen.
Instead
of letting frustration fester or spending your lunch hour on a venting session
with your spouse, address the issues and hash out your differences.
Understanding
where communication breaks down and how to mend disagreements sooner than later
protects productivity and is the key to creating healthy relationships at work.
Marshall
shares a few mindful tips to help support you in creating an efficient and
pleasant environment in your open office.
DISAGREEMENTS ARE INEVITABLE
In any
working space, disagreements are sure to happen. When addressed constructively,
open and respectful discussions about opposing positions or opinions can lead
to stronger collaborations and increased workflow. Whenever possible, affected
employees should engage in calm and collective conversation to resolve their
differences.
Start
by identifying why you’re upset. “What happened or didn’t happen?” “Is this
about a mood or internal offense or something specific and actionable?”
Once
you are clear, determine whether you communicated your expectations plainly and
decide if you want to address the issue. If so, approach your co-worker calmly,
walk through the situation, discuss what happened and what could have been done
differently. The objective is to pinpoint the breakdown so that you (both) are
able to create a solution and talk about how to handle it going forward.
Note:
Remain professional. Try to see things from their perspective and show them
yours as well. Whether or not they are able to see from your point of view is
out of your control. Remain solution focused.
WHEN PLAYING “THE BLAME GAME”, NO ONE WINS
I want
to let you in on a little secret. Things often go wrong. When they do, avoid
the temptation of separating yourself and placing blame. “It’s easier to blame
because you don’t have to do anything – it isn’t your fault,” says Lisa
Marshall. “Finding the culprit and washing your hands a situation is low-level
behavior in professional settings. Be responsible for your actions, as well as,
your reactions. Remember, if a train gets derailed, no one is getting to their
destination.” The main objective when a problem arises is to solve the problem.
Acknowledge your own actions that may have caused or fueled an issue and ask how
you can make it right or assist in making it right – starting now.
DON’T TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY
When
you’re a child, the world revolves around you. We never really grow out of it.
If somebody doesn’t respond to your cheerful “good morning” as you pass each
other in the hall, you might think they don’t like you and are avoiding all
interaction with you- when it probably has nothing to do with you. You never
know what another person is going through internally that is causing them to show
up in a less than stellar manner.
Practice
saying this to yourself: “this has everything to do with them and nothing to do
with me”. Taking yourself out of the equation allows you to release the
personal offense and see the miscommunication or breakdown for what it is.
Give
them the opportunity to share their perspective by asking these two questions:
“Is everything ok?” “Did something happen to upset you?” This may get the dialogue started and if not, respect their stance and gracefully keep it moving
because there is work to be done.
SWALLOWING YOUR FEELINGS WON’T MAKE THEM GO
AWAY
“If
you never want to get into a disagreement, don’t ever say a word. ”
Communication is a beautiful thing, but it has the potential of creating
conflict, so we often avoid talking about disagreements for the sake of peace.
In any relationship, avoiding communication is one of the fastest ways to
destruction. If left unchecked, resentment will soon follow and darken our
view, but communication is the light at the end of the tunnel. Keep the lines
of communication open. Be upfront instead of sitting on your feelings.
Listen
up- eight hours a day may seem minimal but consider this: Within your lifetime,
you’ll spend rough 90,000 hours at work and at an increasing rate, the lines
between work and home life are becoming blurred. For many people, the biggest roadblock between
them and their dream job is their mindset. When you’re feeling good, you’re
able to focus and accomplish work at a higher rate, which in turn fuels continued
success but the work begins with you. Be the example of the type of person you
would like to work with and share those expectations out loud. You’d be
surprised how freeing that honesty can be and you never know who you could be
inspiring along the way.